Is one of the reasons why people want to get married/hitched/partnered the following: that we're so fed up with the never-ending chasing, guessing, playing games, hurting? Not saying those will be any less after the "commitment", but one can only hope that will be the case. Once committed, do the same mind bogging games still prevail? Or do they change form and haunt you nonetheless?
It is a risky business over and over, when you have an open heart. Would you risk it again and again? Or would you throw the key into the heart of the ocean, never having to open your heart again?